Friday, September 14, 2012

Do You Have a Complaining Heart?


...A murmuring mouth is particularly grieving to God because it reveals discontent in God.
 
Psalm 106 says that one of the reasons God made the people of Israel “fall in the wilderness” was because they “murmured in their tents” (v. 25, 26). This has serious consequences...

1. It Models Satan


The angel Lucifer was the first grumbler. The onset of his fall from heaven was a result of dissatisfaction in his position and the desire to be like God. Writes Burroughs [author of The Rare Jewel of Christian Contentment}:

“The Devil is the most discontented creature in the world, he is the proudest creature that is, and the most discontented creature, and the most dejected creature. Now, therefore, so much discontent as you have, so much of the spirit of Satan you have.”

2. It Is Contrary to Who You Are


You are a son and daughter with a heavenly Father who loves you, the deeply beloved bride of Christ, and actual members of Jesus’ body. When you bellyache and complain about every little thing, you mar your royal and treasured position.

“Are you the King’s son, the son, the daughter, of the King of Heaven, and yet so disquieted and troubled, and vexed at every little thing that happens? As if a King’s son were to cry out that he is undone for losing a toy; what an unworthy thing would this be! So do you: you cry out as if you were undone and yet are a King’s son, you who stand in such relation to God, as to a father, you dishonor your father in this; as if either he had not wisdom, or power, or mercy enough to provide for you.”


3. It Is the Opposite of Prayer

In prayer we come to God with requests and with praise and thankfulness in order to commune with him, but when we grumble, complain and murmur we essentially reverse prayer and rehearse all that we aren’t getting or all that God is not doing that we think he should be doing.

“By murmuring you undo your prayers, for it is exceedingly contrary to the prayer that you make to God. When you come to pray to God, you acknowledge his sovereignty over you, you come there to profess yourselves to be at God’s disposal.”


4. It Is Simply a Waste of Time

It accomplishes absolutely nothing. It accelerates personal stress and is downright annoying and draining to listen to.

“How many times do men and women, when they are discontented, let their thoughts run, and are musing and contriving, through their present discontentedness and let their discontented thoughts work in them for some hours together, and they spend their time in vain!”


5. It Swallows Up the Blessing of Mercy before It Arrives

If you covet a particular mercy of God (say, a big raise), when it finally comes, you won’t be thankful for it but will waste it. Coveting a blessing can turn the blessing into an idolatrous curse.

“Discontent and murmuring eats out the good and sweetness of a mercy before it comes. If God should give a mercy for the want of which we are discontented, yet the blessing of the mercy is, as it were, eaten out before we come to have it. … There are many things which you desire as your lives, and think that you would be happy if you had them, yet when they come you do not find such happiness in them, but they prove to be the greatest crosses and afflictions that you ever had, and on this ground, because your hearts were immoderately set upon them before you had them.”


6. It Worsens Sufferings and Afflictions

A murmuring attitude in the midst of affliction increases the affliction. Having a bad attitude in the midst of pleasant or mediocre circumstances poisons your heart and the hearts of others, and how much will this increase if this overwhelmingly negative spirit continues and truly difficult circumstances arrive.

“It in no way removes our afflictions, indeed, while they continue, they are a great deal the worse and heavier, for a discontented heart is a proud heart, and a proud heart will not pull down his sails when there comes a tempest and storm. If a sailor, when a tempest and storm comes, is perverse and refuses to pull down his sails, but is discontented with the storm, is his condition any better because he is discontented and will not pull down his sails? Will this help him?”


7. It Wears the Hopeless Costume of Pessimism

This simply means consistent pessimism is not in line with the sure hope and life-changing power of the gospel. There is an inherent optimism within the gospel that produces hope, love, joy, peace, etc. Positive commands like “rejoice in the Lord” and in everything “give thanks” and negative commands like “do not be anxious” and “do not grumble” all reveal that there is a gospel optimism about the Christian life that is to flavor the personality of a Christian.





By BJ Stockman drawing from The Rare Jewel of Christian Contentment

























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Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Trusting Him & Wise Woman Linkup!


"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in allyour ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight."

 Proverbs 3:5-6

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Confused Parenting




There is a trend in America today that is ever increasing and being promoted from magazines, books, and TV shows that we need to be aware of --it is a form of parenting that hinders a child instead of helps a child to reach his maximum growth. It is a form"molly-coddling" and it needs to be addressed.

I have read some very sound books on parenting and some very bad books on parenting. The good books will stick to scripture and follow it's guidelines. The bad books are based on psychology that can be confusing and literally stunt the growth of a child.

We need to be Christian women who can discern the difference. Just because a book made it to the top 10 bestselling list or has a splashy cover does not mean it contains wisdom. It might contain wisdom of this world but not true wisdom which comes from God's truth.

Some of these books talk about how we need to talk the child through every little thing--to find out how that child "feels" and how we "feel" and how we need to allow the child to vent, do what they want and be out of control.  I know there can be a time and place for talking, but that is alot different from what I read about having self control and self government in the Bible. Sometimes sin is just sin and we need to deal with our children biblically, with a firm hand of truth combined with love.

"Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul. "
Proverbs 29:17

False methods exhaust and exasperate the children and the parents. The scripture above speak volumes of truth on parenting. His way is always perfect and right.



We need to raise up children who can do things for themselves too. Not a child who cries and whines for everything. We must understand that we can't do everything for them. When we do this we are giving them life skills that will prove to be valuable one day. These children will eventually turn into adults who cannot do things for themselves because they have been handicapped while they were younger.

We also need to teach them to serve others. Children are born with folly bound up in their heart, they feel that the world centers around them and a parent needs to step in and let them know that this is not so. We need to teach our children to having loving hands that share and give and thinks beyond themselves.

We try to  do that around here by giving our children the Word of God, teaching them to serve and do jobs that help others, to serve by helping at church, and minister in our neighborhood. Now we don't do this perfectly by any means, but it is a starting point. We are laying down seeds that will grow one day and that is what matters.

Parents need to do their part. They are responsible to God.We are commanded in Scripture to raise them up in His ways---not the ways of this world. We cannot grow weary or be swayed by all kinds of false teaching.

Mothers, my prayer for you today is that you would have wisdom as you walk alongside your children ever dispensing truth, patience and mercy. Forgiving and learning along this great journey of motherhood as He molds you as a parent-- that you and your husband, together as a team, raise up godly seed for Him, and would have wisdom to discern His truths over the fallible wisdom of this world.























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Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Being Gracious with Our Speech



Times have changed from the old days when women were more careful and restrained with their speech. Today we are encouraged to vent and not think twice about what we say, not considering that it might hurt others. We have fallen from gracious speech to unrestrained speech unwittingly tearing down those in our path.

We need to be careful and examine out hearts before speaking. Is this building up? It this a legitimate concern? Am I accusing people without knowing the full story? Am I judging from a prideful heart?

Our words expose us for what we really are. They say when you falsely point a finger at someone, three more are pointing right back at you.

With the onset of internet access we have even more opportunity to "share" our thoughts and opinions in a split second, but it should never be done with out taking into consideration a few things.

1. Do I know the whole story?

2. Am I making assumptions of which I am unsure of?

3. Is this person having a bad day, week, or year? If they are, and I should give them the benefit of the doubt--can I extend grace?

4. Am I overly sensitive? Did I misunderstand something and fly off the handle or accuse too quickly? Am I prone to taking things wrong or handling criticism improperly?

5. Am I being a busy body putting my nose into other peoples business? I will also add, are we taking care of our own business at home?

6. Can I offer a kind word instead of a harsh one, even if I think the person deserves the latter? Is this an opportunity to build up?

7. Is what I am saying lining up with scripture? Am I honoring God with what I am saying?


Christian women should be known to have "the law of kindness of her tongue". That doesn't mean we are perfect, we will fail and are children will too (there is no one perfect except Christ), but we need to be careful that we are not jumping the gun in how we respond to others or circumstances in our life.



A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.  

Proverbs 15:1





 “A quick-tempered man does foolish things” Proverbs 14:17
 “An angry man stirs up dissension, and a hot-tempered one commits many sins.” Proverbs 29:22

 "But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person." Matthew 15:18
"Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." James 1:19
"When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise." Proverbs 10:19




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Grasping for Riches & Wise Woman Linkup!


 "It is not what we take up, 

but what we give up 

that make us rich."

-Henry Ward Beecher



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Monday, September 3, 2012

The "Perfect" Titus 2 Woman



The perfect Titus 2 Woman is...

 not the supermom you see on the cover of mom magazines doing it all.

She is the humble woman.

The gracious woman that comes along side you.

 The woman that is always pointing toward the Lord and not to herself.

The woman who has been through the battle and now wants to share what she has learned by showing you her battle scars. She makes mistakes and shares her imperfections to exalt Him and encourage you.

The woman that loves you unconditionally.

The woman that doles out mercy to all those around here and it  overflows.

The woman that has served privately, without recognition, behind four walls.

The woman who will slow down her day to tend to the ones who matter.



Her arms are always welcoming, always beckoning,  always loving-- smoothing over rough edges with her words of peace.

She is always hoping, always building others up.

She gets on her knees and prays for you.

Lord, we need your strength to be this woman. This imperfect picture of beauty- a real woman who humbly loves you.

A ray of light of Your love on earth.

Thank you, Lord, for the godly women you placed in our lives and

for the godly women you are shaping us to be...





















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