A godly woman who knows how important it is to build up her home knows how much more important is to help her husband to lead. Many women today struggle with helping their husband lead as many of us have been taught just the opposite. We were taught as we watched around us to stand in his way, to dominate the relationship and undermine all of his decision making. Women, this should not be so---we should determine in our hearts--how to best help our husbands leads we look to scripture.
We need to:
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Be prayerful---before you act or speak be prayerful. A godly woman is always growing her prayer life, washing in prayer her family, herself and those around her. She knows how important it is to pray for her husband, his walk, his decision making, his character, his work, his mind, his purity, his protection, etc. (1 Thessalonians 5:17)
2.
Not fearful.--Many times as wives we act out and do so out of fear. We are afraid our husbands will make a wrong decision, we are afraid of the future, what others will think, etc. We need to recognize when that is happening a realize how we can make bad decisions from it. We need to follow the example of Sarah. (1 Peter 3)
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Be silent--Before we speak we need to make sure we are not speaking out rashly or driven emotionally. Sometimes it helps to be silent for awhile (
yes, I know this is hard for many of us!) and pray and think over the situation. (Ecclesiastes 3:7)
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Communicate biblically-- After we pray, look to scripture/get wise counsel, we need to communicate biblically. We do this with speech that expresses love, with kindness, forgiveness, submissiveness, always hoping and trusting without anger, pride, not keeping a record of wrongs, etc. (Galations 5:22)
With Father's day around the corner, I also wanted to share some resources that I believe will further encourage your husband. Father's Day is a great time to give gifts that can equip men in their God given roles.
Biblical Fatherhood as the Key to a Thriving Family
What this country needs is a few good men — husbands and fathers who are willing to love and lead their households with manly resolve and godly vision.
Family Man, Family Leader first presents the vision of biblical household leadership. Next, it addresses the many practical issues necessary for achieving victory as a man, from learning and acting upon God’s priorities, to decision-making as a father, to growing in oneness with your wife, to personal accountability before the Lord and victory over secret sins.
A Plan for Generational Victory (Set of 10 DVD's )
Now on sale for $75
Many Christian families suffer today because they fail to capture the hearts of their children. Too often they fail to communicate vision, convictions, and wisdom to their sons and daughters. In the battle between pagan culture and the Christian family culture, paganism often wins. The sad response is that too many Christian parents simply give up. Others set their goals so low that their best strategy is simply to see their children ‘survive‘ a little bit longer, or to lose the battle for the generations as slowly as possible. Douglas W. Phillips and Geoffrey Botkin gear these valuable teachings at equipping parents with helpful discipleship tools for passing on a legacy of godly experiences and wisdom to their children that they can build on as part of a long-term vision for generational success.
Watch video clips here.
Blueprints for Biblical Fatherhood & Multigenerational Thinking
$30
God appears to be touching the hearts of a growing number of Christian fathers with a hunger to learn more about biblical manhood. This quiet revival is taking place in homes where teary-eyed fathers are standing before their wives and children, repenting for their lack of vision and leadership, and recommitting themselves to God’s priorities for men. With this revival comes the awareness that Christian men need to make dramatic changes in their lives; changes which reflect a biblical re-examination of the way our fallen culture approaches family, work, finances, education, citizenship, etc. The goal of these conference tapes is to encourage men to see “the big picture” of biblical manhood.
Listen to a sample here.$10
The Scriptures offer a powerful vision of what a father’s role is to be in discipling his children. Sadly, many men today are falling short in discharging their God-given duties as family shepherds. In this powerful message, Doug Phillips lays out seven critical components of a father’s role in home education. He is to be: 1) a vision communicator; 2) a Hebrew discipler; 3) a defender of the realm; 4) a household manager; 5) a discipline enforcer; 6) the family’s resident historian; 7) and the leader of family worship.
The Visionary Father’s Role in Home Education is a great primer for dads who want to faithfully lead their families with vision.
Listen to a sample here. The Very Best of the Vision Forum Father/Son Retreats
The father and son relationship is one of the defining relationships in the universe. In fact, before there was a universe, there was the eternal Father who loved the eternal Son. We should not be surprised, therefore, that Satan has reserved his most fiery darts to alienate Christian fathers from their sons. The best way to destroy a nation or to render the Church ineffective is to destroy the legacy of multi-generational faithfulness which God intends for covenant-keeping men and their progeny.
Includes 8 compact discs. Subjects Include:
- Remembering a world when fathers roamed the earth
- How to interview your father and build multigenerational legacies
- Why and how adult men must learn to forgive, love, and respect their fathers
- Becoming men of honor
- Building a culture of virtuous boyhood
- So Johnny wants to play with guns?
- How to win the heart of a rebel
- The true story of Braveheart
- Developing the disciplines of manhood
Every father leaves a legacy for his daughter whether good or bad, whether by design or by default. Daughters watch carefully what dads prioritize as well as what they neglect, and then form their own ideals—including the kind of man they look for in a mate—in response to this. Dr. Voddie Baucham explains this powerful influence that fathers have on their girls as well as the destructiveness of male abdication. His charge: Dads must set aside selfish pursuits and lovingly lead their daughters.
Listen to a sample.
Have a blessed day encouraging your husband and being a helpmeet to him!
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